Noble Living, Noble Caring, Noble Dying
Key Learning Points
Advice for caregivers
Guided meditations for carers, families, and the sick or dying
Practices to arouse compassion and avoid burnout
Practical tips on preparing for death
Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying describes the outlook we can bring to our human experience. This resource center results from many conversations with Phakchok Rinpoche, Tulku Migmar, and experts in the caring profession. We invite you to explore how our Buddhist practice informs our living, caring, and dying so that they are noble: filled with dignity and grace.
Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying describes the outlook we can bring to our human experience.
Most of us will receive care and give care to others at some point in our lives. And all of us will die. How do we care for the present moment? Welcoming everything, pushing away nothing? A complete acceptance and openness to all situation, emotions, and people. Experiencing everything including birth, old age, sickness and death.
In the past few years, we sat with Phakchok Rinpoche several times and began a discussion on this topic that is so important to many of us. We began with a basic question:
How do we age and die with dignity?
Phakchok Rinpoche responded:
We need to learn how to live with dignity. Live without regret, live with compassion, (just a little bit of compassion), live with contentment… live with no regrets. Then you are going to find some degree of dignity, I think that is the only way to die. No regret. Whether you are spiritual or not spiritual it is important to have no regrets. And don’t do “blaming”.
My concern is that when you focus on living and dying with dignity too much, you lose your focus on living. Then sometimes we have no time to think of dignity when we are dying. How we are going to die? You never know. Whether we die very gently or whether we die very suddenly, we don’t know. Are you going to have everybody with you? Or have no body with you ? You never know. This is my sharing.
Noble Living: The Ground of Practice
For this reason, we emphasize that this program aims to remind us first of living nobly. For only if we truly engage with that practice, can we prepare ourselves to care for others, and for ourselves in the process of aging, sickness, and death.
In what ways can our Buddhist practice inform our living, caring, and dying so that they are noble: filled with dignity and with grace?
Can we care for others who are sick and dying and care for ourselves as well? Can we embody the practice of caring?
Love and kindness are aspects of noble caring as is our respect for human dignity.
How do we enter the healing space between two people and ease the physical, spiritual, and emotional distress? Intention and motivation are key in caring and in dying. Being clear and steadfast are both important and can increase our self-awareness and deep listening at the bedside. Caring is integrating knowing and not knowing. The emphasis of caring is on being, not doing. Exchanging self for other is part of the practice of caring.
Together we embark on the journey, the bond of caring is established, is shared, and unfolds.
Noble Living, Noble Dying
In addition to the units here, we encourage you to explore Samye Institute’s offering, The Noble Wisdom of the Time of Death Sutra. This home study program features line-by-line discussion of this classic Mahayana Sutra. For those who are interested in practicing meditation and contemplation to prepare for death, this presentation can be very beneficial.
|Noble Living: Study and Reflections|
|Conversation with Phakchok Rinpoche on Noble Living, Noble Caring, Noble Dying||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying: How We Live is How We Die||00:00:00|
|Four Reminders for Noble Living||00:00:00|
|Taking Hold of Bodhicitta||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Caring and Noble Dying: Preparing For Our Own Death||00:00:00|
|The Six Bardos, Powerful Opportunities for Liberation||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying: Tulku Migmar on the Bardo||00:00:00|
|Physical Health: Advice from Phakchok Rinpoche||00:00:00|
|Instant Liberation through Supplication||00:00:00|
|Noble Caring: At the Bedside|
|Noble Caring: Compassion||00:00:00|
|Conversation with Phakchok Rinpoche on Noble Caring||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying: Pure Motivation||00:00:00|
|Motivation and Dharma as Medicine||FREE||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Caring and Noble Dying: Helping Others Prepare||00:00:00|
|Conversation with Phakchok Rinpoche on Physical and Mental Pain||00:00:00|
|Conversation with Phakchok Rinpoche on Grief and Guilt||00:00:00|
|Grief: A Contemplative View||00:00:00|
|Medicine Buddha Visualization and Mantra||00:00:00|
|Noble Dying: The Final Steps|
|Practical Matters: Death and Paperwork||00:00:00|
|Conversations about Noble Living, Noble Caring and Noble Dying: Physical Signs: What’s Happening at Death?||00:00:00|
|Buddhist Reading on Dying and Care-giving||00:00:00|
|Conversation with Phakchok Rinpoche on Prayer and Phowa||00:00:00|
|Body Scan Practice||00:00:00|
|Power of The Pause: Three Minute Breathing Space||00:00:00|
|Practicing Calm Presence||00:00:00|
|Long Version of Guided Compassion Meditation||00:00:00|
|Compassion Guided Buddhist Meditation: A Casket of Sacred Dharma||00:00:00|
|Creating Spacious Natural Awareness Guided Meditation||00:00:00|
|Sound Healing: Tibetan Singing Bowls||00:00:00|
|Noble Living Blog: My ALS Adventure||00:00:00|
|Continue the Conversation: A Meeting Place|
|Continue the Conversation||00:00:00|
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